Being an Ass-kicker means you have to cut out literally all nonsense, that includes friends and relationships that are NOT beneficial to YOU.
To live like an Ass-kicking Gladiator is to live a bare bones, necessity filled life.
There comes a time when you’ve got to re-assess literally all of your friendships.
In the life of an Ass-kicker there just isn’t any room for low-yield relationships.
If your friends don’t serve a definite dual purpose then it’s time to let them ALL go.
Dual purpose friendships: you enjoy spending time with the person AND you accomplish an activity.
A low-yield friend is a friend that does NOT serve a REAL actual purpose.
A friend that just wants to ‘hang out’, gossip, use narcotics, whine or talk about themselves or other nonsense.
A low-yield friend is an “energy vampire”, someone who drains you of energy by just spending time with YOU.
A high-yield friend is a friend you can hit the gym with, train MMA or other activity with, learn something from, or accomplish SOMETHING with.
A high-yield friend energizes you.
An easy test to tell a high-yield friend from a low-yield friend is how often you answer the phone whenever they call.
If you continually DON’T answer the phone whenever they call, then that’s a sign that they NEED to be given their walking papers.
If you typically answer the phone whenever they call, then they can stay and remain great wonderful friends with YOU.
Who to give the boot to:
Gossips, Loudmouths, Whiners and Negative Nancy’s.
In the life of an Ass-kicker, these types are invisible and speak an alien language that only other idiots can understand.
Gossips want to chatter about nonsense.
They love to work in an “office” because they have a captive audience for their baloney and can easily infect YOU with their disease.
This is ONE great reason why YOU should leave the “corporate life“.
Negative Nancy’s just want to be negative and nasty about literally EVERYTHING.
If you’ve got some “friends” like that, then it’s TIME to give those chatter-boxes the boot.
How to Deal with Drama:
Drama does NOT exist in the life of a Gladiator.
Drama must be invited in, like a Vampire, or it CANNOT exist in your world.
If you have “dramatic” friends give those narcissists the boot.
There’s absolutely NO TIME for nonsense.
If you wanted to hear about drama, you could go searching for the latest celebrity gossip.
This is what you tell your chatter-box friends when they call you about some dumb stupid nonsense:
“Don’t ever call me about that BS again.”
Click.
Spending time with friends should serve a REAL actual purpose.
You should get activities done.
“Hanging out” is usually a big waste of time.
Every second that you “hang out” is a second that YOU have literally wasted.
“Hanging out” is keeping you from accomplishing ALL of your goals.
When your friends call, it should be for a VERY specific purpose.
They should call only to give you some pertinent information OR invite you to an activity such as weightlifting or social activities on a Saturday night after a week of killing.
If you’ve got FREE TIME to spare then go and “hang out” for a little while, but it shouldn’t ever be your regular daily routine.
Tell your friends, that if they have non-pertinent information, then they have to e-mail you.
E-mails are easier to ignore than a ringing phone.
A ringing phone should mean only BUSINESS.
A phone call is an intrusion and should have a specific goal and purpose.
Dealing with girlfriends and girl friends.
A girlfriend is a girl who you are romantically and physically involved with.
Don’t get caught up in silly phone conversations with girlfriends.
Limit conversations to 5 or 10 minutes.
Don’t waste time with back-and-forth text messaging.
They can talk to you at night, in person, when business is taken care of.
A girl friend is a friend who is also a girl.
There is absolutely NO REASON to have girl friends.
Girl friends serve literally NO PURPOSE… at all.
There are only two reasons WHY males have girl friends:
1) They’re gay
2) They’re trying to have sex with the girl and they’re stuck in the friend zone – and that’s just a BIG old waste of time on a massive scale.
Kick the low yield friends out of your life for GOOD.
Only KEEP the high yield friends.
You’ll be glad that you did.
Until next time.
Your man,
-Elijah “The Realist”
