“You look scary”
She told me as I lay next to her staring into her eyes.
“I watched American Psycho the other night.”
“That guy…when I look into your eyes…that guy is who you remind me of.”
– Too many girls to count.
Why do women want dominant men in the bedroom?
A real man is a violent one, and masculinity is NOTHING if NOT restrained aggression.
Philosophers praise manly reason because it evidences self-control – that is, control of our VERY own violent natures.
To be a man is to be five seconds away from actually killing someone.
Consider the lion, wolf, or gorilla in the wild.
They amble about their territory, calm, collected, smooth.
“Paulie might have moved slow, but it was only because Paulie didn’t have to move for anybody.” – Goodfellas.
Upon the first sign of aggression, a dominant male moves with swiftness and aggression.
A man must be able to go from zero to psycho in a literal split second.
There are tens of millions of good – which is to say, neutered – guys in America, and yet the best women consistently end up with dominant, strong, violent men.
Women who CANNOT find alpha males seek other symbols of masculinity.
How many women have begun keeping pit bulls and other large dogs as pets.
Women are so desperate for a little dangerous and fun in their lives that they bring an inherently dangerous animal – an animal they can NEVER tame – into their homes.
The question isn’t whether women want to be dominated.
The question is whether YOU are man enough to REALLY actually dominate them.
Are you a pit bull or a lap dog who they say is just so adorable and cute (as they text filthy pictures to a real man)?
What do women want? That’s easy – rough sex.
(Maxim model Olivia Munn loves rough sex.)
Romance novels are NOT filled with saps who beg and plead and supplicate before women.
The prototypical romance novel is a love story about a strong, dangerous man and the women who love him.
Women want to feel REAL actual desire.
They want a man who grabs them and makes them feel small, vulnerable, and extremely feminine.
Women want to feel that their man is playful but also that he is a little bit dangerous.
This means that domination starts with YOU.
It’s your mindset that MUST prevail.
You MUST have the mindset that she only exists to serve you, that she exists only for YOUR pleasure.
A lion roars during sex, inviting all to hear his conquest.
During sex, most men gingerly pump away, praying that they don’t suffer from premature ejaculation.
They feel like guests when instead a man knows that a woman in his bedroom is on his territory and will live on his terms. (And if she doesn’t like it, she walks.)
They are quiet, like timid field mice afraid that the farm cat might catch them at play.
They are far TOO AFRAID to have rough sex.
“What if someone hears us,” she says.
“Good, maybe they’ll be reminded what life is all about,” I answer.
The first step towards establishing dominance in your relationship is to ALWAYS talk during sex.
Stop asking her what she wants, and start telling her what to actually do.
Issuing commands.
YOU are in charge.
Here’s a quick way to learn how to take control and become more dominant in the bedroom.
You should be changing positions regularly during sex, as that will delay your orgasm.
Before changing her position, tell her what to do next.
Order her around the bedroom just like you completely own her.
First-time sex generally begins missionary style.
Boring.
You look into her eyes and thrust.
She doesn’t like it anymore than YOU do.
Tell her, “Get up. Get on your knees. Stop. Put your head down. No. Lift your ass up. Good girl.”
(Even better: Bust out the sex pillows.)
Right away you are telling her what to do, ordering her around, and telling her what all women want to hear.
“You are a good girl.”
You are setting the tone.
She exists only for YOUR sexual pleasure.
She exists only to please you.
Most women are extremely turned on when a man tells them what to do.
In fact, only once has a woman said, “No, I’m not going to change positions.”
(I quit having sex and told her she was welcome to stay over since it was late, but that I wasn’t interested in her games. Thirty minutes later she woke me up, begging me to take her.)
Once you’ve gotten her used to following commands, you need to start using ownership language.
Ownership language is a set of affirmations that you first issue, and then she affirms.
The strength of ownership language will vary based on the situation and the girl.
Most of the time it’s best to start somewhat mild.
A simple, “You like that, don’t you?” will do.
From there you progress to, “Tell me how much you like it/my dick.”
Not every girl is used to this treatment, and sometimes they won’t answer back.
If she is quiet, have sex for a bit longer before saying, “Tell me how much you like my dick.”
If you are forceful, she will begin repeating your affirmations.
Having her repeat your affirmations is absolutely crucial.
Again, this is why you MUST start very tamely.
Far more important than any given affirmation is that she gets into the pattern of repeating your affirmations.
Every good salesperson will tell you that you MUST get the clients saying yes to something, anything, it doesn’t matter exactly what.
Just get a few yeses.
You MUST get her into the pattern of repeating your affirmations.
Start slowly: “This is good, isn’t it,”
is better than throwing out…
“Tell me you’re a whore.”
Rough sex, like all sex, is a VERY slow seductive process.
Enjoy the journey.
(Under the bed restrain systems are a lot of fun and are surprisingly affordable.)
Also use pronouns in your ownership language.
Say, “You’re my whore.”
Always use my and never a.
When you call a girl my whore, she feels good about herself.
She feels, as all women desire to feel, wanted and desired and completely owned by a man.
When you call her a whore, she feels fungible and lacks a sense of belonging.
Instead of saying, “You enjoy fucking, don’t you, you little slut,” you should say, “You enjoy fucking me, don’t you?”
Using ownership language during sex will dramatically improve your sex life.
Women crave rough sex and as book sales prove, they are completely bored out of their minds.
Until next time.
Your man,
-Elijah “The Realist”
