How To Increase Your Self-Confidence

From the desk of Elijah “The Realist”
Subj: Embracing your true nature
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I recently received this comment from a Frauds and Liars; reader who is interested in developing self-confidence:

“Hi Elijah, what can we do when we are no longer able to regain our self-confidence ? Do you have some advice to find it? It’s very hard to live with no self-confidence and many people would like to have your advice. Thank you.”

Many people lose their confidence because they are not doing the EXACT right activity for themselves.

For example, some big fat guys who are built like power-lifters with thick bones, ligaments and joints are wasting away eating salads, doing yoga, and jogging on a treadmill all day long trying to lose weight.

This activity is fine for a skinny guy, or a girl, but for a man who is not built for it the only thing this activity does is wreck his confidence.

Yoga, cardio and salads do NOT fit a man who is built just like a lumberjack.

If you’re born to be a big fat power-lifter but you’re doing activities like running on a treadmill and dieting on salads with low-fat salad dressing and no croutons… then you will not have any confidence.

Confidence comes from doing what you are supposed to be doing, and most importantly… doing it well.

Your body knows what it should and shouldn’t do… so if you don’t do the RIGHT THING… you get the wrong results.

I was born to be a selfish narcissistic bodybuilding jerk who stares at himself in car windows.

Many people would find this hard to accept, but I don’t.

It is just reality and I choose to actually embrace it.

Maybe you were born to be an ice-hockey player, a ping-pong player, a guitar player, a this or that.

It doesn’t matter exactly WHAT, but it is SOMETHING and you are NOT currently doing it.

Some people may refer to it as ‘cognitive dissonance’.

The brain thinks “I was born to do this, but I’m doing that” and an imbalance is automatically created.

The result of this imbalance is a lack of confidence.

Confidence = certainty

If you are NOT certain of your ability, then YOU will NOT ever be confident. 

To have ultimate self-confidence you MUST embrace your true nature.

If you embrace your true nature with no apology… then it is simply NOT possible to ever lack confidence.

If you do NOT embrace your true nature… then it is NOT possible to ever develop REAL confidence.

Confidence comes from truth, it does NOT come from living a lie.

That is called false confidence and it is VERY easily wrecked.

True confidence CANNOT ever be broken, it simply is.

Do what you are supposed to be doing and the confidence will come back as a result and mere side-effect.

If whatever it is you are doing “feels wrong” at a deep subconscious level, that you cannot REALLY explain, then simply DON’T do it.

A lot of men wreck their confidence by doing feminine activity like yoga, cardio classes, practicing empathy and understanding, and meditating. 

Women wreck their confidence when they try to behave or become like men.

POSITIVE MINDSET

Many people who read too many self-help books think that a “positive mindset” resets the switch and gives you ultimate confidence but here is the REAL actual reality…

Accepting a positive mindset in a situation that is less than what YOU actually REALLY desire… is simply accepting to be “less than”.

Years ago, I had a job that I downright hated and I would always make it known that I hated the job and it was only temporary.

A young lady I was with said I should just “accept it” and think positive about it, since I had to do it anyway.

I said I will NEVER accept this job as my “life“, I will NEVER think positive about this job, I will NEVER allow this job to be ANYTHING more than temporary.

I said that I will NEVER give in and be as these dumb stupid people.

I have NEVER accepted “having a job” with ANYTHING other than a negative mindset.

If I had accepted a positive mindset I’d still be there wasting away instead of being here drilling and killing. 

Many people have a negative mindset because they are doing the completely WRONG THING in life. 

If what you’re doing is wrong, then you MUST change what you are currently doing.

The right mindset will come naturally when you do the right thing and actually embrace your true nature.

It is NOT necessary to be falsely positive, it is necessary to become and embrace truth.

If what you are doing is wrong for you, then very simply walk away.

If you embrace a positive mindset while doing something that is NOT true to you, you will only be embracing a life of “less than”. 

DEFINITENESS OF PURPOSE

Embracing your true nature is the literal EXACT definition of purpose.

A big fat power-lifter will NEVER succeed as a yoga/cardio/salad eater just as a yogi vegetarian will NEVER succeed as a power-lifter.

A big fat power-lifter will succeed only as a big fat power-lifter and MUST embrace his nature to achieve his true purpose.

When you embrace your true nature, only then WILL ultimate confidence comes as a by-product.

For example, I was the worst insurance salesman who has ever lived.

Now, I am the #1 greatest blog artist who has ever lived.

I was doing the wrong thing and NOW I’m doing the right thing and my confidence has simply developed naturally.

This is the only way that true confidence actually develops, by ALWAYS doing the right thing.

It is NOT even a matter of confidence, or even arrogance…

It just is what it is, and I am 100% completely certain of it.

Like Popeye said so many times…

“I am what I am.”

What are you?

Until next time.

Your man,

-Elijah “The Realist”