Like most EVERYONE else, rich people are unhappy.
This observation leads many to conclude that money does NOT buy happiness, although they are only partially right.
Money by itself does NOT buy happiness, but an optimized lifestyle (which costs money) definitely can make YOU happy.
The problem with money is the habits that we acquire while actually making it.
When you have no money, you’ll do almost ANYTHING to actually make it.
You’ll work double shifts or even triple shifts.
You’ll avoid literally all potential vacations.
You’ll work at a “job” that totally flat out sucks.
Even if you acquire money, you’ll still live those same habits.
But having money is a classic case of, “What got you here won’t get you there.”
What got you to the money, won’t bring you to REAL actual happiness.
As an example, a reader writers in:
Your website is AMAZING! I have read almost every single article. Question: I am worth 1 million dollars. I am also in business with someone who does not share my values and who is likely going to cheat me. Do you remain in business with this person knowing you’ll be able to make more money?
That’s a great problem to have and MANY without money would say, “Must be nice.”
Others will say that you need $10 million to actually be considered “rich.”
Regardless, I’ve known rich men who committed suicide, gone on drug binges, and completely lost their minds.
We all have the EXACT SAME human problems.
Most of these are mindset problems regardless shame, guilt, feelings of self-worth, and a quest for meaning.
Although NOT rich, I have enough money stashed away that I don’t ever have to work with SOMEONE I don’t WANT to work with again.
This definitely does cost me money.
I turn down deals every single week.
Money certainly has a cost.
I ask myself these two questions:
- Is making more money worth the cost of watching my back wondering if a certain business partner is possibly cheating me?
- Is making more money worth the cost of doing SOMETHING which I DON’T even like?
Working with unethical and sleazy people will definitely take a major toll on your mindset.
You’ll be devoting massive energy fighting off TONS of bad vibes rather than creating good vibes.
You’ll be running MORE defense rather than offense.
Money is a question of values.
What do you value MOST in life?
I value my time, freedom, and peace of mind.
I disdain acrimony in my personal and professional life.
If you’re unethical or even a pain in the ass, then I will simply NEVER work with you.
And I won’t work with a person on a per-project basis.
If there’s a bad vibe, it’ll annoy me and only get worse.
Business partners are long-term only.
That costs me money.
People want me involved in their projects and any book I launched or co-authored would be a six figure profit for me.
But if someone is a pain in the ass or if I don’t trust him or her fully, what’s that going to do with my mindset?
My focus will be shifted to protecting myself from a thief and meditating in order to purge myself of their spiritual toxins.
What if I focused on using my mental powers and mindset exercise to visualize my dreams and play offense rather than defend myself from toxic people?
My approach has worked for me, because I have an alignment between my personal values and business.
Making more money would make me downright sick.
I’d be one of those “rich guys” who totally hates his life.
As it is, my life is a dream.
It’s better than I could have ever imagined it.
The long story short.
When you NEED the money, do what you gotta do.
In fact you’ll have to deal with a TON of drama and negative people in order to start MAKING MONEY, because people WITHOUT money lack options.
Meditate, relax, and apply MONK MODE to push through those bad times.
When you finally have financial freedom, stop making choices based around only money.
The entire reason to MAKE MONEY is to have the FREEDOM to design a no-compromise lifestyle based on YOUR own personal values.
When you can live a life WITHOUT compromises or regrets, you’ll finally approach happiness.
But If you compromise your values, you’ll be downright miserable and likely have a psychological breakdown as well.
Living life on your terms if an offensive game.
Living life on your terms means setting the agenda.
Only work with people, whom you actually WANT to work with.
Only talk to people, whom you actually WANT to talk with.
You no longer need to explain yourself to people.
If someone bores you, then simply move on.
If someone annoys you, then why even waste your time?
Remember that life is about focus and energy.
Where are you focusing your vision and how EXACTLY are YOU applying your energy?
Are you focusing your vision on negative people and then using your energy to fight off bad vibes and toxic emotions?
How much more energy would you have if you weren’t ALWAYS recovering from negative experiences?
Imagine if you focused your vision on positive people and MANY productive habits.
You’ll have more energy to get ALL of your work done.
Finding more energy is often a matter of focus.
If you have to hype yourself up to talk to someone or do something, there’s a misalignment in values.
When you change your focus, more energy will VERY naturally follow.
The devil is in the details, of course, which is why I wrote MONK MODE.
You can change every aspect of your life here.
Until next time.
Your man,
-Elijah “The Realist”
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