Based on TONS of reader emails requesting what the main red flags are in a potential relationship…
I’ve decided to put together a comprehensive list detailing EXACTLY what the main red flags… about a possible girl whom you might date.
Now there are more and just because a chick doesn’t have these… doesn’t mean she’s NOT a crazy bitch, but this will get you started.
I’ll have additional lists coming out in the future regarding this topic, but these 5 red flags are damn good indicators of a chick who’s just not right in the head.
#5. Was Abused As A Child
If a girl tells you explicitly about the abuse she went through as a child… then watch out.
Granted it’s NOT her fault she went through such tragedies as a child and anyone who violates a kid should be put on death row…
Not this stupid do 5 years and get back out bullshit, but it’s NOT your problem and I can tell you that she will have severe issues due to the abuse.
It’s not your job to ‘rescue a girl‘ even though it’s easy to fall into that role.
I used to be huge into ‘rescuing’ women… until I found out that some damage is irreparable and I was only hurting myself by being involved with them.
#4. ALL Of Her Exes Were ‘Abusive’ & ‘Jerks’
This is a big one.
You have to wonder how in the hell did every ex she’s ever had be abusive?
My ex in particular would absolutely trash the hell out of her past relationships and I’m sure she did the same with me.
The reality is her exes probably treated her like a queen as I did and she disappeared on them as well.
In fact, I found out later she got an ex to buy her a nice house and then left him as well. Ouch.
Girls date who they want to date.
If she really did date ‘abusive jerks’ then she wanted to.
Watch out for the girl who starts ragging on her exes from the start because you might be next.
Simply Eject.
#3. Extremely Promiscuous
Yea, I know this one is tough because girls sleep around like sailors fresh off the boat and are starting to take on masculine attributes, BUT look for the extreme outliers.
The girls who are experts sexually and casually mention different hookups they’ve had like they’re talking about getting their hair done… are girls who have had multiple cocks in multiple holes and probably at the same damn time.
Mine in particular was extremely sexual and we used to roll out and pick up other chicks together.
While this sounds great and it can be for a CASUAL fuck-buddy relationship, NEVER take a chick like this serious as I made the mistake of doing.
She’s damaged goods and a tiger NEVER changes it’s stripes.
#2. Glazed Eyes Look Into The Distance
This one always struck me as odd and I couldn’t quite figure it out, but when I did it was too late.
The girl will stare off into the distance like she’s watching a mirage or some shit.
Her eyes will slightly glaze over and she’ll make irrational statements and act like they’re normal.
Watch the fuck out for chicks who ‘zone out’ at random times and essentially have a conversation with themselves.
It might seem like this one is obvious, but it’s easy to get fooled because it might be associated with tears and we all know how a chick crying can cause our logic to fly the fuck out the window.
#1. Asks To Act Out Rape Fantasy
That should have been the #1 red flag that caused me to dump her, but alas it wasn’t.
If a chick continually asks you to act out consensual rape fantasies run for the hills and NEVER look back.
I for one, have no desire for that kind of sex and it’s actually a turn off for me, but this chick was into that.
Role playing between two consensual adults is fine, but if a girl has a hardcore desire for this fantasy to be played out during the course of your sexual activities with her…
Think about it first and see if it’s just an isolated event or a part of a much bigger problem.
Until next time.
Your man,
-Elijah “The Realist”
