I call it The Boss method.
The Boss Method is essentially approaching a girl in a club, bar, lounge or party with the mindset of being her boss.
Maybe you serve in a management role at your job, or maybe you’ve observed how your boss deals with you, regardless of which one it is, you know the dynamic:
Boss talks to worker in a dominating, firm manner and leads the interaction.
Here’s what I’m talking about verbatim to give you a practical idea:
You’re at a bar and spot a sexy girl 20 feet away chatting with her friends.
They are looking around the room tossing bedroom eyes at guys and maybe even you, so you know that they’re wanting to be approached by an alpha male such as yourself.
Approach with swagger and confidence in your walk and say this:
You: “Girls, I have to steal your pretty friend away for 2 minutes, I’ll bring her right back”.
Then reach out your hand, take the girl who you are attracted to the most and walk about 5 feet away, ideally to the bar.
Note: You’re NOT buying her a drink, but it’ll help you feel more natural and grounded to be at the bar.
You: “I noticed you across the bar (room or whatever) and had to introduce myself. I’m (you’re name), what’s your name?”
Her: “I’m Tiffany (giggles). I’ve never had a guy do what you just did”.
You: “Of course. Because I’m not most guys.” (smirk)
Her: “Oh really?” (or possible shit test such as “Prove it”, “I’ve heard that before” etc)
You: (ignoring her comment) “Put your number in Tiffany”. (Handing her the phone as I outlined in How To Get A Girl’s Phone Number)
Her: “Okay” (puts her number in).
Now this is KEY, so read closely.
Take her by the hand again and don’t be shy, just grab her hand in a dominating, but gentle fashion.
Lead her back to her friends and say this:
You: “You girls should have warned me, she might be more than I can handle” (wink and smile).
“See you in a bit” (directed at the girl whose phone number you just got).
Her: “Okay” (giggles and her friends smile adoringly at you).
Okay, here’s WHY this works:
-It’s bold as hell.
99.9% of guys would NEVER try this.
Girls aren’t used to it, so it takes them out of their ‘bitch zone’ for a few seconds which is the time you act on… taking her hand and leading her away.
-It’s about as Alpha Male as it gets.
You see what you want and you simply approach and ‘take’ it.
-Odds are she’s used to having a boss and listening to him.
When you approach in a friendly, but dominating manner and say verbatim what I told you to say, her instinct will just be to simply… listen to you.
-Girls want to be led. Period.
Be a leader.
-Saying the EXACT ‘lines’ that I told you to say is very KEY.
There’s just the right amount of charm, friendliness, but direct game in the mix that it simply works… when executed properly.
-The physical act of holding her hand immediately and her following you will speak volumes to the Down To Fuck tendencies of her that night.
If she’s willing to hold your hand and be lead away from her friends, then she is more than likely Down To Fuck.
I have done this countless times and it’s around a 88% success rate which is damn good.
-By addressing her friends in that fashion it shows you’re acknowledging them and the obvious ‘power’ they have over their friend’s decision.
By embracing that and smoothly sidestepping it, you’re lessening the chance of getting cock-blocked by them later.
-The last line about her being more trouble than you can handle, is simple balancing out the supreme alpha move you pulled with just a dash of beta.
This shows that you’re playful, it puts it in their mind that you’re aware that she’s ‘trouble’ (so she doesn’t have to be a good girl around you and that’s okay), and you kept your word of bringing her right back like you promised.
This builds COMFORT.
The move is so ballsy that a slight touch of beta makes it seem more natural and relaxed.
This will be HUGE later when you bounce from the venue later with her and she tells her friends she’s leaving with you.
They will trust you more because you have already ‘proved’ yourself.
-Lastly, girls dream about interactions like this.
It’s straight out of their ideal ‘romantic’ moment, so they’re more apt to simply go along with it.
There’s more than one way to skin a cat and it doesn’t have to be asshole game 24/7.
Trust me.
This move is a more advanced player move, but don’t be afraid to try it.
While you may feel you might fall on your face, you’ll find that IF you do get rejected… you’ll be just fine and every ‘no’ gets you closer to a ‘yes’.
Until next time.
Your man,
-Elijah “The Realist”
P.S Go here… because who dreams of fucking 5’s and working at Wendy’s?
