From reading my blog and others, it’s easy to conclude that male behavior is either white or black.
If you’re beta then you’re a virgin who will never get laid.
If you’re alpha then women want you to cum inside them on a Colombian bus.
It’s more accurate to say that alpha-beta qualities fit on a line, with a multitude of traits determining if you lean alpha or lean beta.
I still have many beta traits.
Off the top of my head:
- I get sentimental easily, making short relationships more important in my mind than they really are.
- I can be overly affectionate, both verbally and physically, which usually turns off Western women.
- I don’t let girls pay (as long as I have money), even if they have a decent job.
- I’m willing to travel long distances to have sex with a woman that I like.
These are qualities that I’m no longer working on eliminating because I’ve learned that they do not hurt my chances with women who are my type.
While being overly affectionate may cost me with an American girl, it does not with Colombian, Brazilian, and Polish women, who are overly affectionate themselves.
If I want to sleep with American women, I consciously make changes to my “problem” traits to ensure I still get laid.
I’ve learned that it’s okay for a man to have many beta traits as long as his behavior does not stem from insecurity.
If he’s beta because he wants to be accepted, he will have a problem getting women no matter what, but if his beta traits are quirks of his nature that make him have a “soft heart,” then he will not be punished as severely.
The beta who gets laid does things with women because that’s who he is and that’s what he wants to do with his women.
The beta who doesn’t get laid does things because he’s trying to win her over or overcompensate for his insecurities.
It’s not the behavior but the intent behind it that gets interpreted and judged by women.
They can feel the difference between a man who says he likes her because he enjoys her company or the man who says that because he’s hoping she will like him back.
If you’re a hopelessly sentimental beta, there are three traits you must have if you want to be sexually successful in a Western country:
1. Confidence.
You must have a high opinion of yourself.
This is built from success in sports, weight training, or fucking.
It also comes from completing ambitious projects.
2. Approach Skill.
You must have enough interactions with the opposite sex to meet a girl who is buying what you’re selling (your personality or look).
I don’t care how confident you are, but you’re not going to get laid if you don’t meet enough women.
3. Sexual Persistence.
You can’t rely on a girl to make it be known that she wants to have sex with you.
You must make it happen by constantly escalating in the face of her token resistance.
After mastering these traits you can throw in other things like style, proper venue selection, tighter game, coolness and so on to become a more valuable man that gets frequently chosen for sex.
But then again I wonder if any man who has confidence, approach skill, and sexual persistence can still be classified as “beta.”
Either way, it’s very rare for the most alpha of alphas not to have at least a beta trait or two simmering underneath their armor.
When I’m in America I actively repress my beta urges, and it’s not hard because of the antagonistic feelings I have with the women I meet there, but in a place like Poland I let beta Elijah run wild and free.
It’s cool to sincerely compliment a woman, kiss her with passion, and divulge your feelings for her.
In America that simply does not happen.
It comes down to identifying the beta traits you have and finding out if they are costing you sex or not.
If they are, can you work on changing or minimizing them?
Do you even want to change or minimize them?
Until next time.
Your man,
-Elijah “The Realist”
