For a guy new in the game and not used to crushing hearts, one of his biggest concerns is how to end things with a girl he just wants to have sex with once or twice.
In some cases, he chickens out on the bang because he knows deep down in his gooey core that he doesn’t want a serious relationship.
After knowing girls for only an hour, he imagines how a relationship would pan out and any other potential issues that would prevent long-term compatibility.
He focuses on avoiding drama and discomfort instead of getting laid.
I knew a guy who would not have sex with a girl he didn’t feel crazy about.
“It’s not fair to her if I have sex when my feelings aren’t strong. I don’t want to hurt her.”
I asked him two questions:
1. “Are you so self-absorbed to think a girl is going to fall for you after sex?”
2. “Why are you so scared to let a girl know that you’re a sexual being who wants sex? Are you not a real man?”
(I guess that was three questions.)
I told him, “Girls want to fuck too. If it’s not you, it’ll be some other guy, and whether you love her or not doesn’t change the fact that she needs dick just as bad as you need pussy.”
Caring about a woman’s feelings is foolish because I guarantee you that she doesn’t give a fuck about yours.
In other words, caring is a form of supplication, a hallmark Compliment & Cuddle trait.
One thing that separates the elite players from those in the minor leagues is that the former has the killer instinct of a Spartan warrior who sacrifices his body to the gods during every battle without worrying about the outcome.
He fights (fucks) first and evaluates afterward, assuming he survives.
Personally, it’s impossible for me to judge the quality of a woman until I fuck her, and before that I don’t even think about any future lovey dovey scenarios.
Not until I bust my first nut do I decide if I want to do it again or deposit her on the curb.
If I’m not interested in her and she tries to see me again, here’s what I say:
“You’re a nice girl, but I don’t think we’re a good fit. Let’s just be friends.”
If you don’t like a girl, the only cost to you is those sixteen words.
You can even send this as a text message.
As hard as this may be for you to believe, a woman respects a man more who only wants her for sex, while resenting the man who catches true feelings for her.
If she is able to capture your heart in a short amount of time, that tells her that she could do a lot better.
By letting her know that your interest in her was short-term, you fulfill her fantasy of hooking up with a high-value man who is unattainable.
By dumping her after sex, you actually improve the quality of her life.
Yes, you read that right:
Pumping and dumping a girl does her a favor.
You give her something to hope for (the return of your cock), along with a painful story that brings her closer to her friends.
Hell, if you dumped her without any lame apologies then you could end up fucking her friends, too.
Until next time.
Your man,
-Elijah “The Realist”
