Having to experience flaky chicks is probably the most frustrating aspect of game.
You had chemistry with a girl, exchanged contact information, and perhaps did a little kissy action, but she simply wouldn’t get back to you or agree to plans.
And then you analyze every bit of the interaction to see what you did “wrong.”
I have a mountain of emails from guys listing the many affections a girl has done to them and then asked me, stunned, how she could have possibly flaked.
How can I reduce flaking?
Is there a line I can say before getting the phone number? Etc.
Sure there are lines you can say, but are those flake-reducing or simply game-enhancing?
I believe that specific things meant to reduce flakiness are just tightened game features that show qualities like confidence and scarcity, and should be done regardless.
Men are logical beings and when they set a plan or commit to something they carry it out most of the time.
If you’re a guy you probably feel a little bad or guilty for cancelling on someone, but women don’t.
They have a very powerful rationalization system that makes it all too easy for them to leave someone in the lurch.
When it comes to setting plans, the commitment part of their brain is weak and “Yes” is a word that has significant overlap with “Maybe” and “No.”
Just take a look at how much women flake on their own kind.
The reason they don’t care when they flake on you is because they’ve been doing it forever.
Who the hell are you?
You’re some guy she talked to in the bar for an hour, big deal — she flakes regularly on the girlfriend she knows from grade school.
I’m sure you’ve reluctantly gone out on a date with a girl who you were no longer sure about.
You didn’t cancel beforehand because, like I mentioned above, you’d feel bad for cancelling.
You’re a man of your word.
Have you ever heard the expression “She’s a woman of her word”?
She’s a heartless beast who doesn’t feel a scrap of guilt for cancelling and flaking, and she feels comfortable doing it because she does it all the time, with other guys, girlfriends, and even family (my sister flakes on me and my dad regularly).
And this is all because of the advanced rationalization system that I already mentioned.
We really need some scientists out there to do some MRI scans to pinpoint where it’s located in the female brain.
Maybe zap it with some x-rays.
My headline to this post was a bit sensational.
You can’t eliminate flaking completely, but you can reduce it to practically zero.
You must build a wonderful connection.
It’s wonderful if after meeting you she’s wondering how she managed to live life until that moment.
If you did it right she will message or call you within a few hours of parting before you contact her first.
It takes about 8-12 continuous hours to build a connection that has the chance at being wonderful.
It’s okay if there was sleep involved for a few of those hours.
I’m sure you’re familiar with Mystery’s seven hour figure, where he says that that’s how long it takes to comfortably bang a girl.
I do believe it’s conservative as many of us have done it well before that, but note how it’s easier to have a one night stand with a girl than build a wonderful connection.
It’s something so intense and so dependent on real chemistry, which game facilitates, that it resembles Hollywood more than real life.
I’ve only done it maybe three times.
Therefore you must ask yourself how reasonable is aiming for zero flakiness?
Is it easier to work on multiple girls and bang the ones that come through or should you go all-in on one girl who you’ll probably get tired of after a bang or two anyway?
Try to make a wonderful connection, definitely, but the faster you accept flaking, like how you accept the Earth revolves around the sun, the less frustrating your life will be and the less importance you will place on any one girl.
You’re able to sidestep the frustration that causes so many guys to quit the game before realizing their potential.
If you think you’ve met “the one” and know the wonderful connection is simmering underneath the surface, it’s best to wait as long as reasonably possible before stuffing your meat inside her to heighten the tension and build a “story line,” something that is important more in relationships than one night stands.
But would I personally wait before having sex with a girl because I may want to wife her up?
Nah, she may flake.
Until next time.
Your man,
-Elijah “The Realist”
