In Medellin I was the old guy on campus.
Even when I wasn’t taking classes I’d go there on certain afternoons to study Spanish and hit on girls.
Some American women may say that’s disgusting and pathetic, and who knows maybe it is (laugh), but I can assure you there is nothing disgusting or pathetic about slamming a college girl that looks 22-years-old.
I want to talk about how to deal with the intense, sometimes brutal flakiness that college girls put out when trying to get them out on a date.
This post isn’t about meeting them because it’s just as easy as any other girl, perhaps easier because of their bubbly and free-spirited nature.
I’ve only dated a couple college girls in the States as an adult, and sure they were unreliable, but the flakiness exhibited by Colombian college girls (and Colombian girls in general) exceeded anything I’ve ever seen in my life.
I became so accustomed to it that even if I had a date I proceeded as if I didn’t.
There was a 50% chance the girls would either cut off all contact on the day of the date or send a cancellation text message a few minutes before it was supposed to start — and that’s if you’re lucky (I’ve had guys tell me the girls didn’t cancel until they were already waiting at the club).
Days go by after the cancellation until they tell you a laughable excuse.
I’ve tried to work many different angles.
Being patient with the girl doesn’t work.
If you accept getting flaked she will just flake on you again (this one girl got me three fucking times).
Being aggressive doesn’t work.
You look desperate and scare the girl off.
Being angry doesn’t work either, because why should a girl care if you, some guy she hasn’t even made out with yet, gets mad at her flakiness?
There is only one option left:
Prepare yourself to do battle.
You must be flakey yourself.
You don’t want to use a terrible strategy on a college girl who isn’t a flake, so it’s best you get flaked on a lot to be able to identify the flake’s unique characteristics.
But let me get you started:
Generally speaking if the college girl is beautiful and has a large social circle then she’s a flake.
If she is no greater than cute and has few friends, then she probably isn’t.
Now set a date like you normally would by asking her for a drink a day or two in advance.
If she agrees, tell her you will call her that afternoon to set a time but are thinking around 8 pm, for example.
Then when the day of the date rolls around, simply don’t call or text her.
If she attempts to call or text you towards the evening that means she got anxious about going out with you and wants to ask if the date is still on for the day.
Pick up the phone or text her back and set up the time as usual.
(If she contacts you way early in the afternoon then it’s to cancel — don’t respond.)
If she doesn’t call or text you, that means she didn’t give a shit about you enough to see if the date was on or not.
Bummer.
Only do this with flakes!
This is a technique you don’t want to introduce to a girl who is going along with the river’s current, as it may fuck things up.
For flakes you need to put out a strong “I don’t give a shit” vibe, and nothing does that more than simply not confirming a date when you said you would.
It’s by no means foolproof, and doesn’t prevent a premeditated flake, but it’s the best available tool I have come up with that hits her with the right aloof vibe while making her do at least some of the work.
Until next time.
Your man,
-Elijah “The Realist”
