19 Tips On How To Get Over Your Ex-Girlfriend

Ah the dreaded oneitis.

Damn you oneitis.

Damn you to the grave!

If you’re like me and have ever been bitten by this dreaded bastard of a ‘disease’, then you know it’s probably up there with one one of life’s biggest trials.

Getting over the ex: how the hell does one do this the MOST effectively?

To start, let me explain exactly what oneitis is. Oneitis is quite simply put, an emotional reaction to a relationship with a girl, whether real or imagined.

I included ‘imagined’ in the definition because some men grow attached and put a certain girl on a pedestal who they’ve NEVER even been in a relationship with.

Remember that ‘special’ girl in high school who you fawned over?

You thought she was the most pretty and unique woman in the world and you grew infatuated with having the chance to be with her? 

That’s oneitis.

The most common form of oneitis is, when you date a girl, which could be for a few months or few years, and you make the same assumptions:

She’s ‘the one’ for you, she’s the most unique girl and usually you are extremely attracted to her.

This is dangerous territory to be in and I’ll explain why.

As you are increasingly with a girl spending time together, having sex and living life, you get dopamine hits in your brain in the early stages of the relationship.

This can lead to feelings of ‘falling in love’ and a bond is created, whether a real bond or imagined.

A man can start to rely on the woman for those happy feelings (i.e. dopamine hits).

There have been studies done that show sex and infatuation can provide ‘hits’ much like doing hard drugs.

Once you get ‘hooked’ on the girl, guess what?

Yep, you guessed it.

You have to be around her more and more to get those hits.

What most men, or I should say average men do, is essentially put all of their eggs in one basket. 

They rely on that ONE girl to provide them emotional ‘hits’ of happy feelings and also rely solely on that one girl for their sexual pleasure.

What this does is provide a severe imbalance in the relationship.

While the girl could be getting ‘addicted’ to you as well (there have been studies showing after frequent sex with the same man, a girl’s body will actually crave that same man sexually), the reality is that the average man’s behavior becomes needy and dependent, both of which turn a girl off sexually and emotionally.

In my case, I invested so much time, energy, money and emotions into a girl who wasn’t even worthy, nor ready for a Long Term Relationship, that when she dumped me, it crumbled my world.

This is my point: slow down, get to know the girl slowly, think with your cranium and NOT your cock, limit your time with her, and make her invest more into it than you.

While there’s no magic formula that I’m going to drop on you, because time is the greatest healer, I am going to show you a process that can help the amount of time needed to get over your ex diminish.

Getting Over Your Ex: What The Hell To Do?

There are multiple steps involved with this process and every single one of them are necessary.

It will NOT work if you decide to skip a step and do it your way.

1. Delete her phone number and ANY social media contact: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc.

2. Block her on all forms of social media.

3. Call your phone provider and block her number (or do it through your smartphone).

4. Throw away ANYTHING that could remind you of her: pictures, gifts, etc..

5. Delete any photos or videos of the two of you and her off of your phone and computer.

Empty the trash and save NOTHING.

6. Take a break from any social events where you could run into her.

Steer clear.

7. Take out your calendar and plan a getaway for yourself for 1 month out.

This should give you enough time to get off work for a day or two.

The idea to is get away for 3-4 days, or essentially a 3-day weekend if you work a regular 9-5 type job.

8. Book a trip for 1 month out.

Use a credit card, some savings (don’t blow it all, but within reason), whatever you need to do to book the trip.

9. If you don’t workout, then immediately go to your local gym and sign up.

If you don’t have a local gym or are tight on cash, Badass Bodybuilding has exercise routines that you can do at home.

Start the program.

Start working out.

Exercise reduces stress in your body and releases endorphins which will make you feel much better.

Most guys slack on workouts after getting dumped, but you’re NOTn most guys.

You’re a real-life Winner and God Damn Playboy In Development.

10. Spend 1 hour a day reading ALL of the Game articles on Frauds and Liars .

Read and absorb.

This will help you make sense of Game etc.

11. If you had cut off your guy friends due to the Long Term Relationship, then immediately re-connect and set up multiple plans with each friend to meet them and buy them a drink.

You cut them off, so now you should apologize and re-start the friendship.

12. START GAMING.

I know you don’t feel like it, and you almost can’t even comprehend how any girl could be as good as your ex, but this is key.

Open your mouth and start talking to one girl a day no matter what.

I don’t care if they’re average looking, or NOT your type, open your mouth, and spit some Game.

If you’re lost on what to do, Section II of this book covers Day Game and my other books cover EVERYTHING from Gaming in Clubs, to Strip Clubs and How To Fuck A Girl.

13. Have sex with another girl as soon as possible.

If you have an old fuck buddy who you used to bang before your ex, then get in contact and get your dick wet.

Have sex.

You might feel terrible afterwards, but trust me it gets better and is 100% necessary.

14. Have sex with 10 girls.

Now obviously I get it, it’s NOT that easy to just go have sex with 10 girls right away, but if you’re spending significant time meeting girls gaming, then you will be closing some of them and you will start having sex with multiple girls.

This is key to your recovery.

It might NOT take 10 girls, you may get over your ex by your 6th girl, but make 10 girls the goal and actually follow through.

15. Every time you feel like you can’t breathe and you want to cry, then simply cry.

Let it out.

It’s okay, but do it in private.

There is a time and a place for EVERYTHING and your own living abode is a fine place to let it out away from prying eyes.

16. With the trip that you have to look forward to, examine your personal style, haircut and grooming.

Is it time for a new haircut?

A new you?

Make a list of improvements you could make and DAILY take action to improve yourself, if even for nothing else but for your trip.

You now have something fun to look forward to.

17. Go on the trip and let loose.

Get drunk, game girls, have sex, sleep in, stuff your face, this is your release from the bullshit.

Being in a new place will help you get away from ANYTHING that could you remind you of your ex and will give you a fresh start for when you return.

18. When you get back, take a look at whatever goals, dreams or passions you may have laid to the side when with your ex and pick them back.

Dedicate yourself to reaching those goals and put actual ACTION behind those written down goals.

19. Have patience.

Time heals all wounds.

Depending on the severity of the oneitis you have, it may only take you a couple of months, but for some of you it may take longer.

Don’t beat yourself up.

Almost every man has fallen hard for a girl and been dumped.

It simply happens.

You’re NOT a loser, you just went beta with a chick, but it’s okay because now you have a game plan to get back on track and the tools needed so that it NEVER happens again.

Follow these steps to a T, and you WILL get over her.

The first time happens to most of us, because shit, we didn’t even know any better, but after one time, there’s no reason for it to happen to again.

Trust me I know.

I was stubborn and blind enough that I allowed it to happen to me not once, not twice, but three fucking times.

I get it, I have been there and I know what it takes to make sure it NEVER happens again.

Until next time.

Your man,

-Elijah “The Realist”

P.S This has been an excerpt from the latest book from Elijah, Rapid Seduction Secrets. Get it here.