Today’s article topic is about how to be a good wingman.
It will also help you in finding a good wing.
A good wingman is totally invaluable and it’s also hard as hell to actually realistically find one.
When you finally do, treat him right and DON’T ever take him for granted.
Over the years I’ve had maybe 2 great wingmen.
Only 2.
That’s not MANY for over a decade of going out in the nightlife scene.
One in particular was a cool cat, on the shorter side, but with the confidence of a NBA center.
Dude just dripped absolute confidence.
When we rolled out, it wasn’t a matter IF we were going to pull, it was a matter of WHO we were going to actually pull.
Our wingman ‘chemistry’ if you will was flat out ridiculous.
If I could make a comparison it was similar to the dynamic due of Jordan and Pippen.
While we were BOTH individually strong in the skills of a player, we were on another level whenever ‘working’ together.
Here’s 4 tips about qualities he and I shared that helped each other and will HELP YOU be a great wingman too.
#4. Don’t Be Selfish
This one can be tough because player types sometimes tend to be more on the selfish side.
The KEY here is that this doesn’t work when winging your buddy.
If you guys have a 2-way street wingman-ship, then you will BOTH benefit from it.
Sometimes taking the less cute of the two girls might be necessary so he can pull and vice versa.
If he’s always taking the cream of the crop with little regard for you though, then he’s definitely NOT a good wingman.
#3. Set Some Ground Rules
My wing and I set up some ground rules from day one so we could better work together.
Here’s an idea:
-Whoever opens first has his choice of girls.
If the girl he opened was more into me, then we would calibrate accordingly.
Being stubborn will cock-block the freaking BOTH of you.
-We took turns approaching.
If one guy is just a leach that isn’t fair to the other guy and it actually hurts him in the long run when he will one day need to approach by himself.
-If a girl disrespected one of us, the other would eject no matter what.
Respect came first and our friendship and wingman-ship always came first.
Girls will ALWAYS simply come and go.
If you adopt these 3 rules you have a good chance of finding a synergy that will actually work.
#2. Talk Each Other Up!
You know the guy who has to talk down about you as soon as you get in front of other girls?
Yea, that’s lame as hell.
Sure we’ve all gotten caught up in the moment and sometimes try to ‘out-alpha’ our buddy, but it’s weak and isn’t the right way to actually handle it.
My wing and I always made it a point to talk each other up, but NOT in a fake way.
We were genuine because we both had good shit going on (he was a UFC fighter, but not famous), and I would always find a way to subtly drop that in the conversation.
“He’s taking it easy tonight, cause he has a fight in a couple of weeks”. etc.
Have each other’s backs and it’ll only make the girls more excited to be around not just one, but TWO high value males.
#1. You Guys Should Be Of The EXACT Same Mindset
When me and this particular wing would roll out, we had the EXACT same mindset:
To have fun, but overall to actually get laid.
This caused us to usually be the life of the venue because we were actually having fun… and as we ALL know from Rapid Seduction Secrets, having fun is absolutely KEY to getting girls into your ‘circle’.
If your buddy is more concerned with getting drunk, then it simply won’t work.
If he’s more concerned with spending $20 on a cover charge, then getting inside, it won’t work.
If he’s more concerned with being your COMPETITOR, instead of your WINGMAN, then it won’t work.
Get in the EXACT same mindset and become a powerful duo that is 100% completely unstoppable.
I figured it up once and myself and this cat had around a 92% close rate whenever we BOTH went out.
Yea, that’s insane, but it shows you the power of having a good wingman.