In seduction as well as in business and politics, it is a huge mistake to show your hand too early.
If you want to sleep with hot girls — and in particular if you want to keep them around afterwards —
It is essential that you practice ‘constructive ambiguity’.
Constructive Ambiguity
The phrase ‘constructive ambiguity’ has been attributed to Henry Kissinger, said to be a foremost exponent of the art.
It is also reflected in Robert Greene’s third law of power “Conceal Your Intentions’, and also in his fourth, ‘Always Say Less Than Necessary’.
Less generously, constructive ambiguity has been called ‘fudging’—that is, being deliberately vague in one’s use of language in order to cloud a complex issue.
But on a personal level, constructive ambiguity can be a hugely valuable tool, both in game and in life.
Constructive Ambiguity With Hot Girls
In pickup, the player who is most ambiguous about his intentions is the most intriguing and will therefore enjoy the hottest women.
Does this mean that you should approach indirectly and conceal your sexual nature?
No, not at all.
Constructive ambiguity is absolutely NOT incompatible with being upfront about wanting sex with her.
The mindset that you should adopt is as follows:
I am a man, and therefore of course it follows that I seek to sleep with hot young women.
That is a fact and I own it.
Nevertheless, I have multiple sexual options and so I remain ambiguous about my intentions around commitment.
When I approach a girl I like to make it very clear that I am a sexual being, that I see this as a man-woman interaction and that I am interested in her principally as a sexual prospect.
I don’t mean that I tell her this in a clumsy way, but rather that it is implied in every aspect of my presentation from my eye contact with her to my tone of voice, to my body language, use of touch and so on.
Ambiguity around being a dominant man who desires sex and is unafraid of showing it is an anathema to females and will lead you straight to the friend-zone.
However, ambiguity around your intentions with that specific girl is dynamite and will get her hooked.
Yes, you would bang her, that goes without question.
But equally, you are able and willing to walk away since you have SO MANY other options.
This is where teasing comes into it’s own.
I often open with something like ‘Hey, you’re cute.’
But I will immediately override this with a take-down of some kind, something teasing and challenging.
I want her to realize that at this stage I’m ‘just browsing’.
Yes, she’s an attractive option, but RIGHT NOW that’s all she is—an option.
And with plenty of others waiting in the wings… I am more than happy to walk away with no deal.
Once you have slept together you should continue with the EXACT same strategy (if you want to keep her around either as a friend with benefits OR a girlfriend).
Don’t be too eager.
Don’t respond to her texts too quickly.
When you do respond, always write less than her.
Don’t drop your plans on her behalf.
Be unavailable sometimes.
Don’t ever talk about your feelings.
Never initiate the ‘so are we boyfriend and girlfriend?’ conversation:
Let her do that…
By all means ignite the flame with a direct approach if you like, but after you’ve done that use constructive ambiguity to ALWAYS keep her guessing…
To maintain her excitement and intrigue.
You don’t have the disadvantage of the world’s media being trained on you, so maintain your mystery at literally all costs.
Always remember, if you are an open book then she will leave the library with another.
Until next time.
Your man,
-Elijah “The Realist”
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