With Western girls I find that cockiness mixed with humor and teasing will be the best way to build attraction with them.
I can roll up into any city in the United States of America, make a couple witty sarcastic jokes, and have the girl asking me personal questions.
I can meet an Australian girl in a city, ask what’s wrong with her hair, and have her asking about my plans later that week.
Unfortunately this type of game does not work on Brazilian girls.
By my estimates I’ve probably interacted with 100-150 Brazilian girls in both Brazil and the United States, and my hook up percentage with them is about a third of what I can get with American girls.
I tried many angles, like being nice, being direct, being mean, being aggressive, being aloof, being a comedian, being disturbed, etc. and absolutely nothing has worked with any type of consistency that I can share with you.
Every time I bang a Brazilian girl I feel like luck played a role.
A big difference is that in America girls will indulge you even if they don’t like you off the bat.
This is how you can turn the tide with strong game.
But in Brazil the girls don’t give you the chance if they’re not into your look and vibe, which means less opportunity to use classic game to build attraction.
If it’s not there almost immediately you’re pretty much done.
On one hand you save time but on the other how can you use brainpower and skill to get what you want?
So then I worked backwards on the set of hooks ups I’ve already had.
Like a statistician I poured over the data to see if anything stood out at me.
I’m also in touch with a dozen or so guys who’ve banged Brazilians and have their experience in the back of my mind as well.
From this analysis there was a very clear pattern of Brazilian girls who got banged…
They already like Westerners.
In particular they like the English language and Western culture.
They watch American movies and listen to American music.
They go to Starbucks and Irish pubs.
They have either visited or lived in a Western country.
They’re at least 24-years-old.
Every Brazilian girl I’ve slept with has spoken at least passable English, and they enjoyed practicing.
Every Brazilian girl I’ve slept with has put out strong interest within two minutes of talking to them.
Every Brazilian girl I’ve slept with has mentioned in passing other gringo “friends,” a German guy here, an English girl there. I’m never the first Westerner they got to know.
Every Brazilian girl I’ve slept with has complained about Brazilian men to some degree. They are looking for something different.
Every Brazilian girl I’ve slept with has been at least 24-years-old.
I know two guys who have banged a quality Brazilian girl who spoke no English and didn’t fit the model above, but neither of them could sustain the relationship and make it to bang number three. I think these girls did it more for the novelty of it, not because they genuinely liked Westerners.
During my six months in Colombia, I was the first Westerner for most of the girls I slept with.
For two of the girls I was the first Westerner they had ever met, something that has never been the case with Brazilian girls.
There I found that hanging out in a place with a lot of Westerners generally wasn’t a good idea as it killed my exotic status.
In Brazil (at least for Rio) that seems to be the opposite.
I actually do terrible when I’m in a place that has no Westerners, because the girls probably don’t care for them.
Girls in Brazil know which clubs have Westerners, and if they like going there then guess what — they like Westerners and it will be easier for you.
If you want to bang a Brazilian in Rio, go to the spots that have Westerners first.
Being the only Westerner in the club is great if you like standing out, but it won’t automatically be easier.
There is this one club I do well at.
Until recently do you know what I would tell other guys when describing the place?
“Yeah music is alright but it has a lot of Westerners… terrible.”
It could be 20% Westerners at times!
I didn’t realize that my complaint was helping me get results there.
I’ve been to another club four times.
There are maybe 2% Westerners at the most.
I’ve never hooked up there — not even gotten a measly phone number — even though it’s in a poorer part of town.
Here I get ignored most of the time.
Girls simply don’t give a shit.
There’s a guy I knew in Rio who spoke very good Portuguese, something you’d think would increase his chances of banging a lot of Brazilians, but it hasn’t done anything of the sort because his ability is merely driving him to girls who don’t already like Westerners.
He has conversations in Portuguese that go absolutely nowhere.
His language skill merely delays the inevitable rejection.
So I have no idea how to bang a Brazilian girl who doesn’t speak English or who doesn’t already come pre-programmed liking Westerners.
Your guess is as good as mine.
But now when I approach a girl, I ditch after a minute if she’s under 24 and she doesn’t try to say a few words in English.
Otherwise I simply run cool guy game, tell her my story, crack a couple jokes, tease her very gently, and build some attraction from there.
With Western girls I definitely work at building attraction and it may be several minutes in until I “hook” her, but with Brazilian girls if attraction isn’t there almost immediately then nothing will happen.
Game in Brazil is more venue selection, persistence, and attractiveness than what you already think of as game.
The best advice I can give you before coming to Rio is to hit the gym hard and look your best.
Then once down here approach.
I really wish I could give you a complete strategy, and maybe I can some day, but until then don’t waste your time gaming Brazilians who are skeptical of Westerners.
Until next time.
Your man,
-Elijah “The Realist”
