Sex.
Rough and tumble sex.
Soft love making’ sex.
No holds-barred straight out of a porno sex.
Sex on bales of hay.
Sex in nightclub bathrooms.
Sex on hoods of million dollar cars.
Sex in private jets.
Sex rocks.
If you don’t agree that sex rocks, then you’re probably reading the wrong blog.
But, before you get to the really fun act of getting naked with a sexy woman, the sexual tension you create before you have sex will speed up the process and make it more intense and enjoyable for both parties.
Creating sexual tension is hands down my favorite aspect of flirting with a girl.
The more new the acquaintance, the more curious I am about how much sexual tension, I can create with her.
I’ll let you in on a little secret: women crave sexual tension.
Women love sexual tension.
Sexual tension plays into fantasies that ALL women have.
The art is in the tease.
The mix of just the right ingredients of alpha male body language, what you say and more importantly, how you make her feel, creates a combination that reveals itself in her as unbridled lust for you.
I’ve touched on this before in this article, but Creating A Bubble is paramount in building this tension.
What is Creating A Bubble?
It’s the act of drawing her in through the senses: sight, smell, sound, taste and touch.
The more intense the experience, the more that sexual tension is built, until she cannot wait to rip your shirt off.
If you properly lay the building blocks before you get to the point of having sex, she will be eager to have sex with you.
If you have to sit on the couch for three hours trying to get her to take her bra off, then quite simply: you have not properly amped the sexual tension to the point where it will happen ‘naturally’ and with enthusiasm.
Who wants to have reluctant sex?
Not I.
How Do You Create A Bubble?
Through the 5 Senses: sight, smell, sound, taste and touch.
Sight
Your eyes are your most important tool as a playboy who enjoys the company of sexy girls.
Yeah, you being 6’4″ isn’t necessary.
Everyone has eyeballs, so there’s no excuse not to learn how to use your greatest asset when communicating with a girl.
And hell, you don’t even have to have great eyes.
If you do, awesome, but I don’t have the ‘sexiest’ eyes and I’ve learned to use them to create an insane advantage over most guys by harnessing the power of eye contact and penetration.
Not the kind of penetration you’re thinking, but ‘penetrating’ her eyes and ‘seeing’ into her soul.
When I look into her eyes, I am communicating silently… my desire to take her and bring the most intense pleasure she has ever received in her life.
Girls FEEL this down to their core.
Smell
This is two-fold: how you smell and how you use your nose to smell her.
The main point is, smell great.
Find a cologne that combined with your natural body chemistry makes girls stop you in a store and ask what you’re wearing.
If you’re not getting comments on how good you smell, then switch colognes.
The second aspect of this, is smelling her.
You’re not sniffing like a rabid dog, but essentially breathing her in when you kiss, or nuzzle her neck.
Smell her collarbone and around her neck.
Breathe her in.
Imagine the two of you are one person.
You will almost feel a ‘buzz’ of electricity when you do this.
Sound
Sound is of course, what you say and what she hears.
I’ll let you in on another little secret which you won’t learn ANYWHERE else: silence is one of the key ways that you build sexual tension.
People are afraid to shut their mouth and simply be and to allow silence to thicken in the conversation.
Here’s a practical example of how this works:
Her: “You seem like a player type, do you always do this?”
Wait 2-3 seconds, not fidgeting, but calmly looking her in the eye in a dominate fashion and throw in a small smirk…
You: “You seem like a type that likes players”
She nervously laughs and looks away, then tosses you a look with her eyes shining bright.
Hooked.
This works… because you don’t deny, you don’t apologize, you simply ‘call out’ her shit test in a smooth manner.
Another way to use silence to create sexual tension, is when she asks you a question later in the conversation when the two of you have become more comfortable and the sexual tension has intensified.
Her: “So what are your plans for Memorial Day Weekend?” (The question doesn’t matter)
Wait 2 seconds, then pull her close and kiss her on the mouth.
This gentlemen, is spontaneity and women crave it with EVERYTHING within them.
Learn to be spontaneous, unpredictable and charming and you have the trifecta of getting women addicted to you.
You: “You bring the animal out in me” (whispered in her ear after the kiss)
Then turn your back on her and order a drink.
Push–pull.
Give and take.
Attention, then ignoring.
This isn’t done in a vindictive manner.
It’s done in a fun roller-coaster type way that creates a fun, dynamic of sexual tension between the two of you.
And lastly, the use of actual words to create sexual tension.
There are a myriad of statements you can make, but here are a few.
“Can you handle intense baby girl?”
“Something special is happening right this very moment”
“Come here” (kiss)
Never underestimate the incredible power of a command to a woman.
It’s catnip when calibrated for the situation and is also essential when using Frame.
Taste
I struggled with revealing the myriad of secrets I have on this, but I’m currently in a good mood.
There’s the obvious with kissing.
No-brainer here, but keep your mouth fresh.
I’m a smoker, but I carry Dentyne gum to keep my mouth fresh.
If you have bad breath, the girl will run for the hills.
No excuses, get your mouth fresh as fuck.
The not so obvious ways are ones that I have used for years.
They work very well.
Using the example of you being at a bar enjoying some intimate moments with this sexy girl, here is a way you can build sexual tension through taste.
The Lime
Every bar has limes.
Take a lime and squeeze it on your finger.
When kissing her pull back and squeeze some of the lime on your finger.
Gently trace her lips with said finger.
Then gently insert your finger into her mouth.
Note: Do NOT shove it.
This is done in a sensual and gentle manner.
The girl will start to suck the lime juice off your finger while looking at you deeply with her eyes.
She might even close them for a moment.
You don’t have to use a lime, but lemons tend to be too sour and most bars don’t have orange slices sitting around, unless it’s an upscale lounge with ‘mixologists’, instead of bartenders.
Touch
Firm and Soft are the two ways to create sexual tension physically.
You want to alternate between the two, but always calibrate based on the receptiveness of the girl to your touch.
Some girls prefer more aggressive and rough.
Some girls prefer more sensual and gentle.
You will only know by trying BOTH.
A hand on her lower back firmly placed is the golden #1 standing-at-the-bar-move… that I and countless playboys have successfully used.
It’s tried and true.
If you’ve kissed, then grabbing a handful of her ass, or a slight ass tap works as well, but be mindful of your surroundings.
Less is more in public, unless you have the corner booth in the dimly lit lounge.
Touching her throat gently when kissing and the back of her neck (her nape) and gently running your hand through the back of her hair is also golden.
Don’t pet her like a dog, but with your hand on the back of her neck when you’re kissing her, you can trace her ‘baby hairs’ (the hairs at the base of her neck) with your thumb.
I’m also a fan of tracing a girl’s lips before kissing.
This creates intense anticipation before you kiss her… and anticipation is an essential ingredient to a great kiss.
Too eager and it’s a turn-off.
Controlled, passionate and learning to pull back right as she REALLY gets into it, will build some serious sexual tension.
Until next time.
Your man,
-Elijah “The Realist”
