The arena of self-improvement is packed full of blogs, programs and concepts to take people from what they are to what they want to be…
But something that I have NOT yet seen…
is what EXACTLY self-improvement REALLY is truly about.
Self-improvement is just that: SELF-improvement.
Not Elijah “The Realist”-Improvement, or Tony Robbins-Improvement, it’s (Insert Your Name)-Improvement.
While a man should be working on EVERY aspect of their life to become the best man that they can actually be…
it doesn’t mean that they turn into a clone of SOMEONE else.
If you’re NOT into nightclubs at all, then why try to force yourself into becoming a bad-ass nightclub cat?
If your main passion is dirt bike racing, why waste time becoming a bodybuilder… if that’s NOT your true REAL actual calling?
The #1 KEY to taking self-improvement advice is tailoring it for yourself, and using the concepts and tools to achieve your personal goals.
There are a few commonalities that all men share though… and I believe that these main points help you regardless of what your hopes, dreams and goals are.
What Self-Improvement REALLY Actually Is
-Taking care of your body.
That doesn’t mean you HAVE TO turn into a body builder if you DON’T truly want to.
It only simply means being in good shape and ALWAYS staying 100% healthy.
If you like to run marathons and stay lean, then simply do so.
Don’t change who you are… simply to fit a mold… that you FEEL you MUST be.
Taking care of your body also means making choices in your diet that will keep you healthy and your brain sharp.
This is 100% common sense.
Personally, I make choices like smoking AND sometimes (albeit rarely) alcohol… that I know are unhealthy, but I simply like to do it, therefore I simply do.
I will quit one day, but it’s 100% when I actually decide to.
I also workout to stay in good shape, but I don’t have a desire to be in ANY bodybuilding competitions, so I don’t do more than what is actually needed to maintain a good body.
That’s a personal choice, but it’s mine and it makes me 100% totally happy.
If you thrive off being in incredible shape then do that because it’s making you happy and in the long run is what YOU desire…
Not because you THINK it’s necessary in order to simply get laid, because it’s absolutely 100% totally not.
-Becoming good with women.
Whether you want to bang models & strippers for the rest of your life, or bang 20 girls and THEN eventually settle down with just one woman…
Your journey will give you an idea of what makes YOU happy.
Pursue that.
There’s a false idea that a “real man” has to bang hundreds of girls.
This is 100% completely totally false.
I do believe strongly from experience that a man shouldn’t settle down until he’s slept with at least 20 women, because that will give you a good idea of what you want in a woman and will give you the experience needed to have a healthy and truly rock-solid relationship.
But being good at game is more than just banging randoms every night: it’s a way of life that affects your interactions with literally EVERYONE
The skills you get at becoming great with women… you can carry with you for the rest of your life… and is NEVER time wasted.
Trust me on that.
I firmly believe that the major two aspects of life that a man simply MUST figure out… are divided into 2 main categories: Women + Money.
If you figure those out and become successful with BOTH, then you will have figured out MOST of what it actually means to REALLY… live a good life.
-Having a hustle.
Whether you’re a corporate cat, or more of a free spirit…
it’s absolutely 100% KEY that you learn the basics of MAKING MONEY completely on your own… and YOU maximize that ability.
You will always need money, unless you’ve been blessed by the trust fund gods.
Learn how to actually MAKE MONEY… and that skill will NEVER ever leave you.
I promise.
They say the first million is the hardest, but then it gets MUCH easier… because you already actually KNOW what to do to make another million.
The same goes for building a REAL successful thriving business.
Learn from the ‘failures’ and NO MATTER WHAT… don’t ever quit.
Eventually you’ll have a profitable self-made business.
Lastly, you’re better off working your ass off on your VERY Own Small Business… that NO ONE can take away from YOU… than to bust your ass on someone else’s business.
Only to be fired or laid off ONE DAY… completely randomly & totally out of the blue.
Don’t spend your whole freaking ENTIRE life… building someone else’s dream.
-Creating a network and your own personal Rat Pack.
Go out of your way to make real connections with successful men… who you can bring business to AND you can help & ALL learn from each other.
These mutual friendship relationships will flat out shock you… at how much they help you to actually reach your goals.
You can be an island and 100% self-reliant, but that doesn’t mean that you DON’T have a network of successful men… to bounce ideas off of and mentors to get some REAL actual genuine advice from.
-Overall becoming the absolute BEST that YOU can actually be… regardless of your circumstances and genetics, to better fulfill your personal goals and live a more satisfying life.
What Self-Improvement Is Definitely 100% Not
-Being a clone.
If you have men who you admire and look up to, then glean from them what you can use, but don’t believe that you have to turn into them in order to be complete.
Use the tools they provide to discover your true calling and what makes you actually tick.
If you stay true to yourself while ALSO simultaneously improving yourself… you WILL remain 100% happy.
You will NEVER be happy trying to become a second rate version of SOMEONE else.
No one can be the best version of YOU at your 100% absolute best.
-Comparison game.
Don’t ever compare.
You’re in competition with yourself only.
At the end of the day 99.9% of people could give two fucks about ME or YOU, but it’s NOT about them.
It’s about yourself.
You. You. You.
I can write until I’m blue in the face and my fingers fall off, but if YOU don’t ever TAKE ACTION for yourself, then literally NONE OF THAT… won’t actually matter.
Having information available to you… does NOT = TAKING ACTION.
It’s a combination of taking your new-found knowledge + tools… and relentlessly TAKING ACTION… consistently.
-Masturbation of one’s emotional state.
If you THINK that self-help is just jerking off your emotions into false states, then you’re currently doing it 100% completely totally wrong.
You should be following actionable practical steps… to become a MUCH better man… that when executed… allow YOU to see REAL actual gradual daily improvement.
If it’s just theory and NOT real practical applicable information, then immediately look elsewhere.
Easy way to check if you’re REALLY actually improving… based on what you’re doing RIGHT NOW:
Are you REALLY actually further ahead in life in ALL areas than you were 3 months ago.
If you’re NOT seeing any gains, then you’re simply either NOT doing enough, or misapplying the information that you’re currently reading, studying, or taking in.
Reading self-help information is EXACTLY just like taking a girl’s panties off.
Doesn’t mean you’ve had sex until your cock is in her pussy… and it doesn’t actually help you until you REALLY truly apply it.
Don’t just be a reader, be an actual REAL-LIFE doer.
Until next time.
Your man,
-Elijah “The Realist”
